His deception started before he or anyone he knows even knew I existed. I was somewhere between birth and grade school (Because he claims he was a teenager when he started and by the time I was in 2nd grade, he was no longer a teenager).

So by the time I met him, he had already spent close to 20 years pretending to be an upright, godly man... And almost 10 years as an assistant pastor/youth pastor. 

I swallowed his act hook, line and sinker. Any "red flags" were dismissed as my own misunderstanding, because everyone who knew him longer (and therefore better), had no problems with what I attempted to point out. 

Really, those things seemed insignificant anyway.