Yeah he built himself up a LOT, yes he was always late, and he never called me, unless I called him first, and he always just assumed I would be available to go out with him when it was convenient for him  and he never asked until he was ready to go... And I enabled that behavior, because I was that damaged and needy.

But there was so much more than what I saw, and I saw hints of it this last year or so, but had no way of knowing for sure until he admitted, or confessed it three months ago...

When one is steeped in blatant sin and refuses to let it go, and manages to manipulate their life and the lives of those around it really does a lot of damage. But the one doing the damage thinks as long as it all looks good (for themselves) every thing is good.